Ep 345: Balancing Winning and Development in Youth Soccer

This episode dives into the balance between winning and youth soccer development, addressing challenges faced by parents, coaches, and clubs.

The discussion covers the impact of media narratives and the structural shortcomings of American soccer, such as the lack of promotion and relegation. It explores how losing can be a learning tool and the need to sustain a competitive yet positive environment.

Additionally, resources for coaches and parents are highlighted, such as programs from 343coaching.com and 343masterclass.com, with an emphasis on possession-based football as effective in developing players and teams.

The episode underscores the responsibility of coaches in fostering player growth on and off the field, advocating a long-term approach to development in American soccer.

00:00 Intro
04:26 The Role of Winning in Youth Soccer
06:29 Winning Helps from a Coaches Perspective
09:24 Parents want to “win at all cost”
11:00 On Parent Education
14:29 Coaching Philosophy and Challenges
16:27 IG Question: Re-evaluate your Build Out Philosophy if Losing
19:43 On Playing “Down” a Level in Order to Execute and Learn
22:40 IG Question: “When Coaches Say They Don’t Care About Winning”
24:44 On Parent Discernment
27:09 On Leagues not Publishing Standings & The Kids Care About Winning
31:14 An Extremely Positive Opportunity for Teams/Players that Always Lose
33:33 Should Results Matter at 5 Years Old Playing 4v4?
38:04 IG Comment- On Coaches Exploiting “The Result”
39:55 The Broader Soccer Ecosystem (Lack of Pro/rel is the Root Cause)
42:13 Trickle-Down Culture of Mediocrity in American Soccer
43:38 The Impact of Promotion and Relegation
46:37 The 3 Parent Expectations: Pay to Play, Have Fun, and Win – The Transactional Nature of Youth Soccer
50:35 Has Brian Ever Sacrificed His Philosophy/Identity to Win?
52:30 Winning Matters and Losing Matters – Life Lessons
57:40 On NFL/NBA/USWNT Being the Best without Pro/Rel
01:03:44 Columbus Crew Supporters Chant Like AYSO Children
01:07:38 How Long Until We Get Pro/Rel, and How

---

Premium Education for either Coaches or Parents

If you are a coach or a parent of a player, we’ve also codified and made available the remarkable work of a coach who trained and shepherded many, many players from the age of 9 all the way to graduating them to being professionals.

The products that show you how this was done, is what sponsors this episode.

Get aboard a proven path, a legitimately proven path, not something copied or synthesized from elsewhere, or worse. No, but rather a first hand account and curriculum directly from the source, from the practitioners themselves, whose work is unprecedented in the American soccer environment.

For Coaches

Learn the methodology at 343coaching.com.
If you’re coaching 7v7, we’ve got you covered at 7v7coaching.com.

For Parents

You don’t have to be lost and confused.
Learn to properly guide and develop your kid through the maze and pitfalls that is American soccer (from the folks who have actually done it).
Gain access at 343masterclass.com.

---

Never miss new episodes:

• Subscribe to 3four3 FM on iTunes
• Subscribe to 3four3 FM on Stitcher
• Subscribe to 3four3 FM on Spotify

---

Parent Education Program